Useful Dating Tips From Our Members

Use verified and private photos to your advantage

Seriously— get a verified photo. Do the private photo thing too, and just take/use good real pictures.   No one wants to guess what you actually look like even though they are looking at a picture of “you.” (I.e. at least one face shot with no filter. At least one shot where someone can see your whole body. Not nude, just the whole thing)

Do private photos, because people are more likely to match to try and see them!!

Tips for getting more matches and responses on the app

People need to make sure they have more than one image.
People need to be willing to initiate the first conversation.
Need to be respectful, read the bio before sending the message.
Make sure your profile has a descriptive bio.
It’s ok to be told no, just keep looking.

How to make a 3Sum Fun 
When it comes to threesomes it is a good idea for all parties to sit down and have a drink together to discuss what it is everyone wants to gain from the experience. This will make things much easier when it comes to getting down to business. As all parties can agree on their limits as everyone is different. The main point is to be safe and have fun because at the end of the day that’s why we’re all here right.
Tips for having a threesome
Don’t be too pushy for a three-way. Let it flows and be natural.
Don’t devote your time to one person in the couple. It can cause so many issues and the couple might not be looking for that.
Don’t cheat outside the threeway.
Have some ground rules so everyone knows things you can and can’t do

Dating tips for the polyamorous:
1. Full up-front disclosure, no one wants to find out anything crucial after the fact.

2. Make sure your partner is secure with your relationship before entering this environment, they come before all others, insecurity can because for a very public blow up.

3. Make sure those you play with know exactly what you’re into and not into so that they don’t unknowingly overstep boundaries.

Be open-minded

The most useful tip is to be open-minded and receptive of what each of your partners wants and needs. One partner should never feel jealous of the other. Have fun and remember you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take! It’s okay to be shy but make sure you’re willing to open up more as you get to know your third or the couple you’re getting involved with.

Tips for couples

Always include your partner and secure your relationship before playing. In other words, come together and leave together.

Always play safe!! Very important and not worth the risks.

Don’t be afraid to say no, or that you’re not interested.

Communicate with your partner if something isn’t right, or if you feel uncomfortable.

Let her pick the third party.

The best advice in a male-female relationship looking to add a female….let her pick, decide, and approach the third party.   It will help keep jealousy and all the negative thoughts such as “she is sexier/ prettier than me.

Rule number one: always use protection

Try to meet new people as a couple, not as a single, get your partner involved in the talking and the meeting
Talking about meeting, is important to feel safe about the other person, so why not a safety date? Take your partner and your new friend in a date, hot coffee or a nice beer, a long talk, get to know each other, eye to eye as friends first is important to make both of you feel safe

Don’t be shy about your feelings

Don’t be shy about your feelings and don’t be afraid to say if you are not sure about this new experience, you are looking for someone that comprehends you and your partner, and is not the right person if he/she doesn’t accept that you are not sure about this experience

Rules for having a successful threesome

Don’t forget to be honest if you have any “bad” addiction like cigarettes or weed

Make sure you are comfortable with the partner that you are with. There’s nothing worse than having a random hook up and you end up being the one that is left out because you can’t get an erection.
Be the one to take control in the bedroom don’t rely on your partner nor the-unicorn because chances are they will be waiting for you to make the first move.
Don’t ask tons of questions, the worst things I see is someone who builds up a great story and then comes to be let down. Go with the flow but don’t sit back in the crowd.
Make sure your very specific when it comes to your limits and things that you won’t do because expectations can lead to a really weird and awkward moment when the people are looking for one thing and your answer to all that is no

 

Calm and collected tips for threesome dating

 

1. Try to get to know the couple/person before doing anything to make sure they aren’t completely
phsyco
2. Try to be comfortable and not awkward with the sexual situation
3. Try to pick someone you are attracted to
4. Learn what they like and don’t like in the bedroom that way you know what to do and what not to do
5. Always use protection so there is less chance of contracting a disease because you never know. It could happen.

 

Useful tips on first time meeting with another member
Tip 1: Always make sure you chat extensively and also video call with each other before meeting.
Tip 2: Talk about fantasies, fetishes and also how you want a perfect sex scenario to look like between the three of you
Tip 3: use protection or ask to see medical records before involving in any sexual encounter.

 

Common sense tips  for a newbie in the lifestyle 

Tip 1. Always meet in public.  That way everyone gets a feel for each other and it gives them time to get to know what they want.
Tip 2.  Regardless if you want to admit it or not.  Somebody knows that you’re in the lifestyle. So when meeting with someone new.  Tell that secret person and also have a GPS locator like find my friends. So that way if they don’t hear from you after a certain amount of time.  Then they know where you’re at and they can do what they have to do.
Tip 3. Be yourself and honest.  Don’t say you’re one way online just for a hookup.  Especially if it’s your first time.  Everyone has a first time so we all know what it’s like.  Usually, it’s no big deal. My first time was awkward because I didn’t know what to expect. But just like sex, I let nature take its course and it became natural.